{"id":246,"date":"2006-02-10T07:57:00","date_gmt":"2006-02-10T07:57:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.fridaynirvana.com\/fiction\/2006\/02\/the-worth-of-our-daughters.html"},"modified":"2011-06-30T20:13:27","modified_gmt":"2011-06-30T20:13:27","slug":"the-worth-of-our-daughters","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.fridaynirvana.com\/fiction\/2006\/02\/the-worth-of-our-daughters.html","title":{"rendered":"The worth of our daughters"},"content":{"rendered":"

In this blog<\/a> Uma writes about dowry. Plain and simple, it’s not hard to understand. What is abundantly clear from the various links she has, and from the horror stories you have head from family\/friends (as I have) , that in the face of weak laws and an even weaker justice system, and a “culture” that reveres woman as “Mata” but kills her every day, it is upto the parents to stop sacrificing their daughters at the altar of marriage. It is hard no doubt in a society which dictates that a woman’s primary aim in life is to marry, and procreate (and soon !), (and serve her in-laws), but change must come, even though it comes at a slow pace.<\/p>\n

Another thing I’ve heard is of families trying to “settle” the matter, if there is a problem. I wonder if the families ever think “Let’s just give the TV\/car\/money – at least our daughter will remain married, even though her in-laws torture her and could possibly kill her”. Does it ever occur to them of her pain ? Is it OK then for women to suffer in their married homes ? A couple of beatings a month, an adulterous husband, sadistic in-laws, all part of life, no ?<\/p>\n

The raw reality is that many parents want their daughters to “adjust” to domestic violence and mental and physical abuse, if it means that she can stay married. Is that the worth of our daughters today ? Is that how discard-able our girls have become to us ? To be born (if she’s born at all<\/a>) and brought up, and then gotten rid of ! And left to her unhappy lot ? Ever wonder what that daughter feels ? Ever wonder what she will assimilate and teach HER daughter ?<\/p>\n

Categories : _women , _india<\/p>\n

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