{"id":69,"date":"2009-10-24T19:56:00","date_gmt":"2009-10-24T19:56:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.fridaynirvana.com\/fiction\/2009\/10\/ask-and-ye-shall-recieve.html"},"modified":"2011-06-30T20:21:10","modified_gmt":"2011-06-30T20:21:10","slug":"ask-and-ye-shall-recieve","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.fridaynirvana.com\/fiction\/2009\/10\/ask-and-ye-shall-recieve.html","title":{"rendered":"Ask and ye shall recieve"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>They say <a href=\"http:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/2008\/04\/06\/jobs\/06pre.html\">women don&#8217;t ask<\/a>. Women who ask, negotiate on their own terms, are viewed unfavourably to put it mildly. In my personal experience, I&#8217;ve been asked to &#8220;not argue&#8221; because it&#8217;s unladylike, accept what I&#8217;m getting with gratitude and not push for more (womanly virtues), blah, blah, blah . . .<br \/>Mother-figures and aunts impress upon us the value of subservience, and a woman who asks doesn&#8217;t exactly fit into the good girl\/daughter\/bahu\/girlfriend mould. <\/p>\n<p>Is it any wonder then that I am a regular reader of <a href=\"http:\/\/thedailyasker.blogspot.com\/\">this<\/a> blog ? La Roxy, of the Daily Asker,&nbsp;started a 365 day experiment in asking; she asked for something everyday for a whole year. Says she&nbsp;on her blog&nbsp;:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>Prompted by a book I started reading today, Women Don&#8217;t Ask, about how women&#8217;s reluctance to negotiate costs them millions of dollars individually &#8212; not to mention the collective losses &#8212; I decided, quite spontaneously when I got to the bottom of page 7, to try asking.<\/p>\n<p>Perks. Discounts. Upgrades. 2 for 1. 3 for 2. A better restaurant seat. Application of an expired 20 percent coupon. Salary boost. Access to discretionary funds. Lower insurance rate.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>Interesting stuff.<\/p>\n<div class=\"blogger-post-footer\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1\" height=\"1\" src=\"https:\/\/blogger.googleusercontent.com\/tracker\/11570614-111398250312319539?l=reviewroom.blogspot.com\" alt=\"\" \/><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>They say women don&#8217;t ask. Women who ask, negotiate on their own terms, are viewed unfavourably to put it mildly. In my personal experience, I&#8217;ve been asked to &#8220;not argue&#8221; because it&#8217;s unladylike, accept what I&#8217;m getting with gratitude and not push for more (womanly virtues), blah, blah, blah . . .Mother-figures and aunts impress [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"rop_custom_images_group":[],"rop_custom_messages_group":[],"rop_publish_now":"initial","rop_publish_now_accounts":{"twitter_17000648_17000648":""},"rop_publish_now_history":[],"rop_publish_now_status":"pending","_uag_custom_page_level_css":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[9,21],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-69","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-culture-and-society","category-women"],"aioseo_notices":[],"uagb_featured_image_src":{"full":false,"thumbnail":false,"medium":false,"medium_large":false,"large":false,"1536x1536":false,"2048x2048":false,"post-thumbnail":false,"sow-carousel-default":false},"uagb_author_info":{"display_name":"amodini","author_link":"https:\/\/www.fridaynirvana.com\/fiction\/author\/admin"},"uagb_comment_info":0,"uagb_excerpt":"They say women don&#8217;t ask. 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